Colby Joey and Alan

More than a little disturbed

Suspect may have posed as cop. Accused in child porn, sex assault case also worked with teen group

RCMP are investigating whether a Lower Sackville man charged with sexual assault and making child pornography has been passing himself off as a police officer. Michael John Kaye, 24, of Walker Connector Road was in possession of various pieces of police, paramedic and firefighter uniforms and identification, said RCMP spokesman Cpl. Joe Taplin. Whether Mr. Kaye may have posed as an emergency services worker "would be part of the investigation," Cpl. Taplin said Friday. The Mounties are also reviewing their own security procedures in light of Mr. Kaye’s admission into the RCMP’s Stetsons and Spurs youth program. "He has volunteered with the group since September," said Cpl. Taplin, adding Mr. Kaye was never alone with any teens in the youth group without another adult leader present. Police do not believe Mr. Kaye had any contact with teens involved in Stetsons and Spurs outside of its regular meetings. The girl who Mr. Kaye allegedly assaulted and whose images were discovered on his laptop was not a member of the group, Cpl. Taplin said. Mr. Kaye was arraigned in Halifax provincial court this week on charges of sexual assault and making and possessing child porn. He has been released on a $1,000 recognizance and conditions including an 11 p.m.-6 a.m. curfew, having no contact with the alleged victim and staying from areas where children may be present. He is also banned from using cellphones and accessing the Internet with computers. Cases of citizens impersonating police officers are fairly rare, Cpl. Taplin said. Anyone doubting an officer’s identity should ask to see his or her ID and then take a close look at it. "Real police officers would never have a problem showing their identification," Cpl. Taplin said. "Our officers all carry photo ID and a badge. "If people are still a little skeptical, they can call in a uniformed officer." Mr. Kaye selects a court for trial April 11.

This article appeared in today's newpaper. This is more than a little disturbing to me, because even though it disturbes me enough that someone like this lives so close to us (less than 10 minutes) THIS MAN HAS BEEN IN MY HOUSE. Yes, I know this man. There was a time I would say I knew him well. He is / was the boyfriend of a former co-worker of mine, someone at one point I considered a close friend. So close in fact that when Rob and I went to Cape Breton for Adelle's christening, I borrowed her car (it was a VW diesel), and they spent the weekend. Here. In my house. That perverted imposter slept in my house! The thought that bothers me the most is on that weekend she picked up Colby from mom's for me and had him here at the house with her until we came home that evening. Now, in her defence, I don't know if she was involved with this or not. I know when she first met him he stated to her that he was an undercover cop, who was also a paramedic and a volunteer firefighter. At the time, it didn't sound nearly as ridiculous as it does now. But, on the other side of that, she has been living with him for 2 years, and must be still with him as on the cover of yesterday's Daily News (which I have not seen yet) she is in the photograph with him. I have a hard time believing that she was involved with this with him, but the more logical part of me thinks "hell, she's been living with him for 2 years, how could she NOT know?" It scares me to think how many other little girls (these girls were 14) that he assaulted before he was caught. The thought of it sickens me.

After

Colby at 1.5 years

Rob has been converting our VHS home movies to DVD. He has done an amazing job. I didn't realize we took soo much video of Colby as a baby, and we've dusted off the ole' video camera to start getting more of Joey. This is probably my favorite video of Colby so far that we have found, but for whatver reason I can't post it directly to my blog. So I've cheated and you can find it here. Just a little backround before you watch it. Rebecca and Kira are my neices and at the time of this video I was babysitting them through the day. Rebecca called Kira "Sissy". You'll understand the rest when you see it. You'll also notice that I ask Colby to say "Daddy" and he doesn't. For the longest time he would not say Daddy and was on a first name basis with Rob. When I find that video I'll put it on here too!

Poppy will be so proud

Pirate Colby and Joey

House of the sick

The stomach flu has been running rampant through this house. I had it for a day or so, just feeling yucky, but hey, there's no calling in sick when your full time job is mommy! Colby had a bad case of it, and now Rob is not feeling the best. He stayed home from work yesterday and is not feeling the best today. My sister is having a rough time with it also. Just gross all around.

We got a call last night from A&G. Looks like they may be coming down this weekend! I can't wait! Lots of eating, laughing and either Sequence or Scene It!

We have been very busy with house renovations. We re-painted the living room, and for all who have been in here, we painted the panelling. This house was originally a 2 bedroom house, and when the previous owners separated the front bedroom into 2, the added a piece onto the room, coming out into the livingroom. It's hard to notice if you don't look, but the hallway is about 3 feet longer on one wall. Anyways, when they added this they put up pine panelling, and stained it a very dark color. When we first painted the house, we didn't paint the panelling, but this time around we did and boy what a difference! We also re-did all the pictures in the living room, and now the living room is mostly black and white pictures of the kids. We didn't have a lot of family pictures in the livingroom first time around, but I'm very proud of my family and my photography and am just thrilled that this is now the first thing you see when you come in my house. Open invitation for all to come and see!

These are the "before" pictures, I'll post the after pictures later this weekend after A&G come up. I'm not ruining the suprise! LOL

Yesterday

From 1 to 3 teeth in 2 weeks

Still a thumb sucker!

My mommy uses a Canon!

Stock bowling party

We went to a Bowling party with Stock Transport on Sunday. The kids had a blast and I couldn't resist posting a few pics of it.

A pink butterfly!

Colby didn't want to get a tattoo on his face, but had no problem gettting a car on his hand!

Look, another car tattoo on the hand!

What a smile! Big surprise, Kira and Colby sat together on the bus! These 2 should be brother and sister!

Poppa Don, the bus driver!

Oh, and I want to thank everyone who endured my rant about childcare. I have figured it out and we're all set!

I'm starting to really panic now

I have been looking for part time child care since January. I really, really never expected that it would be this hard. I only need 10 hours per week, but the problem I am running into is that I need 1 night shift. Mom has said that she would take the boys for 1 night shift, as long as it's Thursday or Friday because she doesn't drive and that is when Dad is off, which leaves me screwed for the beginning of the week, as Rob works 2 night shifts a week. I really hate to rely on my parents again for childcare, because they were the sole child care providers for Colby before I had Joey. I have interviewed a couple of people but nothing seems to have panned out. I have put more ads on a few websites that specialize in looking for / offering childcare, but no luck. I have put a sign up in the store here looking for a high school student, but according to the woman who works in the store, "people don't think it's enough hours to make it worth it". I have no sweet clue what the hell I'm going to do. I go back to work in 4 weeks. I was hoping to have found someone by now so that the boys could get used to them over the next couple of weeks to make my going back to work a little easier on them. The only real possibility I have is a girl who showed up, whose first words to be were "i forgot to tell you I smoked", when all I could do is look at the spike going through her bottom lip. I can't go to work worrying if the boys are alright or not. It's to the point now that it's 3:45AM and I'm up on the computer because I woke up panicked and I can't go back to sleep. I never in my wildest dreams thought it would be this hard. I have no idea what we're going to do.

Walmart Special

Need a little help

Colby's class is having a Valentine's party, and although the teachers did not ask parents to send in something, it was implied in the newsletter that said "if parents choose to send in treats for the valentine's day party, please be cautious of allergies in the classroom". Well, there is a kid in his class that is allergic to nuts, and there is a kid who Colby says is "allergic to sugar". Well, after asking around, it's not that he's allergic to sugar, it is that his parents refuse to let him have any sort of "sugary" treat. At all. Poor little bugger. I really want to send in something, but it has to be nut free and sugar free. Broccolli? Carrots? Packages of oatmeal? Fruit To Go? I'm at a loss. I thought of going to the dollar store and buying valentine pencils or stickers or something, but hell, who really wants that? And since the choices are so limited I'm sure that there will be plenty of Rice Krispy squares already, even though the marshmellow is probably off limits to this little guy. I wanna do something "cool" as Colby would say, but I just don't know what to do that would allow them all to have it. Any suggestions?

American Idol

I'm hooked. I'll admit it. And for anyone who watched it tonight, the old man made me bawl. I'm soo impressed that they let him sing.

I really should not have gotten up this morning

Today is just one of those days that I would have loved to just stay in bed. It seemed like nothing could go right today. It started off with no water, as a pipe had broken in the park and shut off water to everyone in here. It continued to our computer now not working, and me sitting on the couch with the laptop on my lap, and the mouse on a book to my right. Joey wouldn't nap at all today and I'm tired and cranky. Oh well, such is life. To be honest, I feel quite spoiled to be blogging from the couch, so it's not all bad. Except this stupid thing keeps beeping at me and I don't know why, and no Adam, the battery is not low because it's plugged in!

On a much lighter note, Colby climbed into bed with me the other morning as he always does for our "morning snuggle" before we start the day. It's something we have done forever and we both love. He crawls in, looks at me with a little grin and says:

"Mommy, you're not going to believe the dream I had last night".

"Well tell me about it honey, I love a good dream".

"No Mommy, I can't tell you" (as he giggles)

"Honey, you can tell me anything. I want to hear this funny dream".

"Well, there were lots of girls in it".

Me, trying to remain composed. "And what were they doing?"

"They were naked".

At this point I'm really trying to remain calm.

"Why were they naked honey"

"I scared them by yelling and their clothes fell off".

At this point he fell over giggling and I'm biting the inside of my lip, trying to remain composed and calm, all the while there's a voice in my head screaming

MY 5 YEAR OLD IS DREAMING ABOUT NAKED WOMEN!!!! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD SOMEONE HELP ME!

There are also 2 other voices in my head at this time. One is Rob saying "That's my boy" and the other is Adam saying "Are any of them redheads?"

I really am a rotten mother

Needless to say, "Josephine" is going for another haircut!

Go Flames Go!!

Joey's new toy

Anyone interested? Only one left

Currently trying to sell the last baby hedgehog. They make cool pets. Currently asking 150.00 obo, but give a real good deal if it's someone I know HINT HINT HINT. How can you resist this face???

Like playing twister in Jello

We are learning many things with the dog as time goes on. First and foremost, we have learned that she is most comfortable in her kennel when we are not home, as she tends to get so upset when we leave her alone outside of it that she craps on the floor. And trust me, big dog = big crap. We are currently in the process of trying to get her a smaller kennel, as the one she came with is massive, too big for her and for our house. I am also learning first hand what it means for a female dog to go in heat. I have never experienced this before, as the only dog I remember when we were growing up was already fixed when we got her. We are now going on week 2 of this. I put a post on freecycle a week or so ago for boys undies, as this was suggested to me as a way to keep the house relatively clean (for those of you who do not know, when a female dog goes in heat she bleeds. The bigger the dog, the heavier the blood flow. This was new to me!). I received an email from a lady who said that she custom made "diapers" for her dog out of flannel that she washed that kept the dog clean and kept the house clean. We were keeping her in her kennel for most of the time before this, as frankly she was making quite a mess in the house. We are using drop cloths to line her pen, and I am changing them and washing them 2x a day. I got the flannel diapers from this lady, and they were held together with an elastic that would sit on the dog's hips. Well, Chili doesn't have any hips and these did not work. We were able to modify them, and after a few tries this is what we ended up with. It wasn't the easiest thing to get on her at first, it was like playing twister with her. Luckily she is go easy going and after a bit of a rough start with it this morning I was able to get this on her, and she has been so much happier to be out of the kennel and laying back on the floor at my feet. As funny as it looks, she doesn't even bother with it. If I was a cruel person, now that she is used to me dressing her, I could dress her up in all sorts of things. A funny t-shirt.... maybe.

One for the books

Yesterday was my birthday. I'm climbing through the 30's faster than I thought I would. It's a bit scary to be honest. It began at 6am yesterday morning when Colby, who had snuck in earlier that morning due to a nightmare, reached for his sip cup of juice and mistakenly grabbed my normal glass of juice and in the dark spilled the entire glass all over me in bed. I, of course, was asleep until SPLASH and thought that Colby had been sick. I jumped up from bed, repeatedly asking Colby if he was sick as I was scrambling for the night. Poor little bugger kept saying "I'm sorry mommy, the top wasn't on my juice!" I cleaned both of us up, while Rob was chuckling in the backround saying "Happy Birthday Mommy, SPLASH". I sent Colby back to bed and curled up on the couch until the baby woke up. I had a great day at home with the guys, and they made me a great birthday card. I also received 2 very disturbing calls yesterday. One from a close member of the family who was attacked the night before by a family friend, and another from Rob's mom saying that his grandmother could not get out of bed and was in the hospital. Even though it was my birthday, I'm glad it's over and everyone is back on the road to recovery. I also received an interesting email. I have been approached to do a b/w photo shoot of a man who wants to do these pictures for this fiancee. He wants to do "sensual" pictures, which at first made me chuckle and think to myself "I don't do nudes of people I don't know", but the more I got chatting with him, he doesn't want anything pornographic (thank god) but just something sensual that leaves "something to the imagination" as a present for his fiancee. I have been trying to find some inspiration through pictures on the web, but every search I look for finds me looking at gay porn. Not quite what I'm looking for! Does anyone have any idea of where I can look for black and white pictures of men that are not graphic and totally nude? Tawny has always loved a b/w picture of a couple by a photographer by the name of Pamela Hanson (I think) and that's the type of style I'm looking for, but I can't seem to find anything with just men. Lots and lots of women, but no men. Any suggestions of websites or books would be greatly appreciated. Once I find what I'm looking for, I'm going to try out a few pictures with Rob, and I'll post them for opinions! (And Adam also if he'll let me!)

My men

We were all sitting around last night and after about 100 pictures, this was the threat from Rob. Did it stop me? Hell no! (In Rob's defence, this picture was AFTER I took approximatly 20 pictures of him taking the food processor out of the cupboard and putting it on the counter. BUT, in MY defence, I got some great shots of his butt, and let's be honest, how can I resist taking pictures and annoying my husband at the same time!)

Sometimes songs can say things better than you can

well she was precious like a flower

she grew wild, wild but innocent

a perfect prayer in a desperate hour

she was everything beautiful and different

stupid boy... you can't fence that in

stupid boy... it's like holdin' back the wind

chorus:she laid her heart and soul right in your hands and you stole her every dream and you crushed her plans she never even knew she had a choice and that's what happens when the only voice she hears is telling her she can't stupid boy stupid boy

so what makes you think you could take a life

and just push it, push it around

i guess to build yourself up so high

you had to take her and break her down

well...

chorus: she laid her heart and soul right in your hands and you stole her every dream and you crushed her plans she never even knew she had a choice and that's what happens when the only voice she hears is telling her she can't stupid boy stupid boy you stupid boy you always had to be right

This is Keith Urban's new song. This stopped me in my tracks when I heard it. Sometimes it seems like certain songs are just written for certain people, don't ya think? (And no, for those who don't know me as well as others, this is not a cry out for help for me, but reminds me of someone else)

Welcome 2007

Rob and I, for the first time, went out last night for New Year's Eve. I took pictures for Kelly's cousin who in turn offered to babysit for New Year's for us, since I wouldn't take any money for the pictures. We decided "Why not?" and figured we would just see where the night took us. I didn't want to be out late as Julia is a nurse and worked at 7Am the next morning. We decided to go to Montana's for dinner and then if there was time catch a movie. We're not into the downtown scene, so this sounded like a great night for us. We had initially tossed around the idea of trying to plan a house party at Adam's but since that didn't work out we invited him to come along with us, which of course he did. I felt very special to be "out on the town" with 2 such great looking men! When we got to Montana's, they told us there would be a 65 to 85 minute wait, which we waited out at the bar. It only ended up being about a 40 minute wait, but again, there are worse places to be then sitting between two good looking men drinking a strawberry daquiri. Our friends JoAnn and Barry showed up and we got a great corner booth. I ordered another Strawberry daquiri (after peer pressure from the 2 hubbies) and upgraded from the small I had ordered previously to a large, with slight (very slight) arm twisting by our waitress. We ordered appitizers and had a great supper with many laughs. I had to stop drinking my drink 1/2 way through as I was getting quite a buzz (yes, I am a VERY cheap drunk) and went off to the ladies room to pee. I found the walk a bit challenging and was very concerned over this, only to be greatly relieved when JoAnn followed me to the bathroom and commented on how slippery the floor was! I wasn't as drunk as I thought! YAHOO! We parted ways with Barry and Jo and the 3 of us headed across the street to the theatre to see what was still playing (at this time it was 9:40). Rob dropped Adam and I off at the door to park the car so we could go in and see what was playing and buy the tickets, as time was quickly running out. We had initally wanted to see "The Good Sheppard" but it wasn't there, and even the promise of a New Year's Eve Midnight Kiss couldn't convince Adam to go see "Dreamgirls", so we ended up getting tickets for the only show that was left which was "Casino Royale". Adam and I were laughing and carrying on in the line up , as we tend to do in public, and as I was buying tickets for Rob and I, Adam jumped over to the other line to buy his and I looked at the girl working the ticket booth and said to her "My free advice to you, is when you get married, only marry one man. Having 2 husbands can be a pain when you want to see a movie and get outnumbered". She laughed, and then did a double take when Rob walked in. (I was hanging onto Adam's arm when we walked in and then switched to Rob when he walked in and the girl saw this) I can only imagine what she was thinking! The movie was, well, it just was. It is definately a renter. But, I had a great time with 2 of my favorite men. How much better can New Year's get than that?

Christmas pictures

Since I was asked "Where are the rest of the pictures Tina, the ones you promised on your blog?" I feel obligated to post the rest of the christmas pics. Love you A!

The Fast and the Furious: Toyko Drift Dinkies - they have not left his hands

This is how I opened most of my presents

This is a blanket that was sent to Joey from my family in NL - he loves it

This is all Colby wanted for Christmas - Hot Wheels Go and Glow Turbo Tunnel

Colby doesn't seem to want to pose for pictures properly anymore - what a monster!

This is something that Rob's mom started when the kids were babies - she reads "Twas the Night before Christmas to them on Christmas eve - Joey was enjoying every minute of it!

This is the fireplace at "Gramma and Poppa's - I love the look of all the kid's stockings

I tried to get Joey interested in his stocking - he just wasn't into it as much as I was